But in a good way.
I'm watching the 16 and Pregnant finale and figured I'd give my thoughts as they come.
I got hooked on this show kind of against my will. At first I really had no desire to see it but I think I saw some snippets here and there and before I knew it I was watching every episode. I've found it kinda fascinating.
I think it's interesting that they're only doing one adoption episode out of the bunch (the kids in the other episodes all chose to parent). But what has stood out to me is how most of the boys/fathers have been very immature and not very responsible after (and sometimes before) the baby is born. With the exception of maybe the last week's episode, I haven't been too impressed with any of the boys.
I'm really impressed with these kids. Really impressed. Especially the boy/birthfather, probably because of the stark contrast he is to the boys in the other episodes. I see him standing up to his white trash, in-n-out of prison dad who told him he's not being a man by "giving his baby away", and that makes me want to give him a high five!
The girl's mom makes me equally SICK. She's not at all supportive of the adoption plan. Which is fine, she doesn't have to agree but.... she bought a bassinet[?!] and tried talking her daughter out of the adoption, telling her that she still has time to change her mind. How cruel is that when your daughter is intent on and content with adoption and you buy a pink bassinet and set it up in the corner, to taunt her? UGH! These parents are just disgusting to me. The kids/birthparents impress me so much because considering where they came from, they are so very mature and strong. Wise. Their parents have a lot to learn from them.
I like that they're showing the open relationship they have with the adoptive parents. It really seems like they bonded and developed the genuine friendship that I think is so crucial.
How could you not cry when the birthfather read his letter to his daughter? I can't get over how impressive this kid is.
I was a little sad at first that they said they didn't want to hold the baby after she was born. I'm a big believer that you have to say hello before you can say goodbye. I think it's a huge fallacy that holding the baby makes it harder because it causes you to bond- whether you like it or not, you are already bonded by some degree. But luckily they did end up holding her and I'm sure they will be glad they took that time with her.
I think it's wonderful for this little girl that she has this experience forever captured on tape. She'll never be able to doubt how much her birthparents love her when she sees it.
I don't like that the adoption caseworker was being 'politely pushy' at the hospital when she basically said "okay it's been 5 hours since delivery, can we kick out the family and friends and bring in the adoptive parents?" Yeah I wasn't a fan of that at all. It should be 100% up to the birthparents to decide who's there in the hospital and when.
The necklace gift was really sweet. You just can't deny the bond that these people have with each other. It's wonderful.
So I don't know how much sense that will all make if you didn't see the show, but those are my thoughts. I thought it was a very well done episode and I'm so happy that MTV presented this positive story about adoption.
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